WHY SOME MARRIAGES ARE FAILING
By Clarence William Page
The state of marriage in the United States of America is pathetic. Many "professionals" in the marital counseling discipline postulate various causes and cures. However, the truth is, most of their "cures" fail. Why is this? There are many reasons. This article will examine a few that most "professionals" in the marital counseling field give little (if any) consideration.By Clarence William Page
First and foremost, is the differences in the natures of males and females. The single greatest failure of human interaction in the United States of America is the attempt to equate male and female human beings without having an understanding of their innate differences. The Twentieth Century gave rise to a number of false assumptions -- among them is the idea that males and females are essentially alike and should therefore be considered essentially interchangeable (except for the apparent difference in physical makeup). This is wrong. Males and females are not essentially alike. They are vastly different. They are innately (not just physically) different. God made them innately different. Many Twentieth Century Americans didn't believe in God so they conveniently discarded the "God made" notion. In so doing, they gave rise to one of the most devastating social experiments the world has ever known. The devastation from those experiments continues. Families have become mere shells of what a family should be. Divorce is devouring our society. Safe, secure and nurturing family cocoons are exploding at an ever-increasing rate. Children victims of those explosions are often in emotional freefall and many never recover from the hellish trauma occasioned by the divorce explosion of what they thought was a "family for life". The result is fear of marriage and the propensity to be promiscuous by living together (unmarried); thus further exacerbating an already catastrophic disaster.
Many marriages fail because wives don't understand men. Men were made to lead. Men were made to be in charge. Many of you have be taught just the opposite (and you are "turned off" by the assertion in this article). However, that is true. Most men that cannot lead and cannot be in charge of their households will become abusive, withdrawn or promiscuous. No legal or other attempts will remedy the situation. If a man cannot lead and be in charge of his household that entire family is in trouble. "Modern" society has tried to teach men differently but is hasn't worked. Men have responded with abuse, withdrawal and promiscuity. There is no remedy for the denial to man of his rightful position of leadership and authority. I could go on and on but the point has been made. You will either accept or reject it.
Many marriages fail because husbands don't understand women. Women were made to follow men. Women we made to be taken care of. Women were made to have someone to lean on. When the United States of American threw out that God-given truth it threw out the formula for successful families. In the United States of American many women have become slaves of the cruel philosophy which requires a woman to be both as good as a woman and as good as a man. I see it all the time. The USA has made women its new slaves. They do the work of getting the family off to work, then go to work themselves and do a full day's work, and return home and do a full evening of "woman's work". They are becoming ill and disabled at alarmingly high rates. They are experiencing neurological disorders and identity crises. Many have position and money but are still unhappy. Some are dying early (for what should be longevity in a "modern" society). Their families are in distress and they are dispensing the defective advice they received. So, the vicious cycle of family failure continues.
God has given the solution to happy families. The Holy Bible is very clear: "Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing: but that it should be holy and without blemish. So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself." (Ephesians 5:22-28 [The Holy Bible]).
I have shown you the fallacy in the philosophies of man. I have given you the word of God. Now you know why some marriages are failing. The choice is yours.
Written at Greensboro, North Carolina, May 22, 2005
Copyright© 2005 Clarence William Page
Copyright© 2005 Clarence William Page